Punishment - in a fair D/s lifestyle

Rules, orders and structures are an essential part in a D/s dynamic and it is normal that mistake are part of our human being. I own my slave for over a decade now and it is absolut normal that sometimes a mistake happen despite how well a slave is trained and what quality the slave reached.

What I understand with financial domination

I have to be honest. It is a delicate topic but I want to give it a try - also because you wanted an article about my thoughts about Findom or my thoughts about the fincancially aspect in the BDSM Lifestyle:
I understand with financial domination (findom) something else then the most people. Perhaps I should call it differently in my opinion like "economical domination"? Furtheremore there is a huge crux with financial domination which occurs with domination/ownership and exploitation!
How can you dominate or own a slave financialy without "exploiting" the slave. Perhaps I should call it: How can you dominate a slave financially in an ethical way?
Therefore this is a perfect topic for a blogpost.

Tips about finding your Master/slave

I often get the question "What can I do to find a Master/slave?". I think it is time that I write my thoughts down. One thing in particular has to be clear: It needs your effort and of course luck.

Routines in the BDSM Lifestyle

Rules, structure and routines are essential when it comes to handling slaves. To condition your slave you need time, effort and passion. On the other hand you need to be strict but also understanding. 

Why I switched to Telegram Channel

Next week we will post again regulary blogposts. I decided to release this blogpost one week before we dive into BDSM topics again. I decided to write the article about the reason I switched my main channel from Twitter to Telegram. One of the reason is how Twitter is acting lately. Changing functions without informing the users. Starting to restrict the views per days and than backing off without notification and so on. Furthermore it is good to have a backup channel in case they change the terms of use.
Of course I will stay on twitter as long as possible and tweet there but I will use my Telegram Channel as main channel now. Therefore I will post sometimes exclusive content there.

Discovering new kinks

I am into BDSM since many years now. It would be wrong to say that I see everything but of course I saw and made already quite some experiances. I know what I want and who I am. Never say never but I know what I am into. I think it will be unlikely that I will discover a „new kink“ out of the blue. 

Why I do not use the first name of my slave.

I only use the name of my slave if I have to - like adressing him when vanillas are around! I try to avoid to use its name and if I have to use it I always have an inhibitions to do so. I also realize that every time before I use his name I search for an "appropriate" adress - which I can not use when vanilla are around - mostly I wait some seconds if my slave is looking over to me before my brain is searching for a solution and then using its name. I honestly also dislike it when other Doms or slaves use its name. It feels somehow wrong to me. The funny thing - luckely - it feels right and correct to hear its firstname by vanillas.

Trust and training - #FindOutFridayBDSM

On a #FindOutFridayBDSM I received the following question which deserves a proper response and therefore its own blogpost:

"How did you get to the point of training in the beginning? Was there lots of contract talk, hard and soft limit discussions, and/or meeting in public places? How did the trust happen? And how long did it take for him to trust you completely?"

When and why I adress inferiors as "slaves"

First of all it is important to say, that everyone has a slighly different view on BDSM. Therefore this is my view on when and why I adress inferiors as slaves. I have to admit that I like calling an inferior "slave". The main reason is to actively remind them of their being and their position in the hierarchy and secondly it makes my life much easier because I do not have to remember their names. Furthermore the name of a slave is in my view not really important.

Using other slaves

As you probably already know I see my slave not as real man. Yes, he is male but this does not make him a man. His body, his sexuality belong to me, his pleasure comes from serving Superiors. I demand and trained him to show basic respect towards all Superiors. But of course I decide to whom he has to serve fully. He has no say in it but you probably know that already.

Nevertheless sometimes I use guest slaves. My slave has of course no say in it. It is my decision who and how I use guest slaves. Mostly my slave is present when I meet them and it is his duty to support them. Giving them tips on how to serve me properly. But his duties does not start and end with the meeting of the guest slave. His duties starts before: Cleaning the house, making preparations and afterwards cleaning up and tidying the room again.

High protocol in daily life

Since quite some time the high protocol is part of our daily life. In the past the high protocol was in place when doing a slave training or when I was in the mood to use my slave more intense. During the other time normal protocol was in place. Messaging and during the day normal protocol took place. I think in avarage the high potocol took place on weekends and perhaps one evening during weekdays. As part of his slave training and deepening his slave being I decided to intensify the high protocol. My slave always had to pre check-in before coming home. That means he has to inform me when he will arrive at home. I began to use this process to let him know which protocol will be in place when he would arrive. Therefore I started to order him more often into high protocol during evenings on weekdays. Today it is quite normal that my slave comes home, strips naked, takes a shower, puts on his cuffs and mostly a mask and then prepaires to serve me in high protocoll by putting on his slave leather collar (collar indicates high protocol). As long as we do not have other plans for the night.

Effects on using a chastity device on slaves

As you probably know. I lock up the useless slavecock when ever possible. Not for security reasons - because of the psychological effects and the sybolic and meaning behind.

Serving at a BDSM club

There are many ways how a slave can serve, espacialy at a BDSM event. I love to go to a good BDSM "party" where I can meet with like-minded people. Unfortunatly these events are rare. I am not seeking sex. I am seeking for "pure" BDSM and if I am honest a lot of focus on these parties are about sex. That is of course absolutely fine but it is not what I am search for.

Nevertheless it makes me extremly happy when I can attend a BDSM event where I can find like-minded Doms or slaves. This happened at our visit in Prag and as always my well trained slave served me and other doms as I expected!

We met Master Dansan and his slave as well as his BDSM friends at the event. My slave had to eat and drink out of the bowls and was of course not allowed to use furnitures, rules which applies always when possible - more about it here. Furthermore he brought drinks and stand in the queue for the doms we met. That is what a natural slave was born for: serving real men in every aspect. While the Superiors had a nice chat the slave stand in queue for drinks. He actively asked if they want something to drink. Lick boots to show his position as inferior. Furthermore he attentively but passively follows the conversation of the Doms to react if their comes up something where he can serve.

My new website "master-d.net"

It took me some time but I decided to build an own website. The idea came soon after Twitter went into uncertain times. What if this explicit content we post on tweeter will be banned? How can I reach out and stay in touch to our community? That was the moment when the idea was born. 

Since September 2018 we are sharing our BDSM lifestyle here. Over 220 article were written and weekly new article are published. Of course you can search here for certain topics but a short summary about me and my view is not available. Therefore I thought it would be nice to create a website about me and a rough overview about my view on BDSM.

But be assured we are still writing our weekly blogposts here. So nothing to worry!

Visit master-d.net and enjoy!

The perfect BDSM new-year's eve dinner

It soon will be X-mas and new year's eve. After tweeting about an idea of a BDSM x-mas dinner I made some thoughts about how a „perfect“ x-mas dinner in the BDSM community would look like. So why not writing about it! I think it would be a nice „x-mas“ story to read.

BDSM Lifestyle and daily life

Life is dynamic therefore it is important to adjust rules and structure to situations where it is needed! Of course there are rules and structures which are set in stone and which will probably not change but as a responsible Master you have to stay open minded and read the signals.

"Entertaiment" vs. punishment

One of the most important topics in every relationship is open communication. Also in a D/s relationship it is important to communicate. Sometimes it is crutial that the slaves understands why something is happening. A good example of this is the topic "Entertaiment" vs. punishment.

Sometimes I want to use my slave for my entertainment or for the entertainment of my Master colleages. So I normaly tie my slave in a way up where his entire slave body is accessable. Playing with the slave nipples, squeezing the slave balls, hitting the slave with the riding crop. Showing him his position as a slave and object by using him as a "toy" for real men. Letting him suffer for my amusement. 

Open relationship & the BDSM lifestyle

If you would ask me if we had a open or closed relationship I would answer none of these two types. We are having a BDSM relationship. So after receiving this question I decided to write about my view and definition.

One night slaves

When I started my path into BDSM I began to date slaves and learned a lot about my true being. I quickly realised what I wanted. Of course I had first to find out that I am a natural Master. It was clear from the beginning that I was searching BDSM and that it was not about having sex. To be honest I never had vanilla sex. Since the beginning of my sexuality BDSM was a necessairy part of my "sexuality".

the BDSM paradox

Today I want to make some thoughts about the - I call it - BDSM paradox. I remember chats with slaves who wrote in the first line something like "you can do EVERYTHING you want with me, Sir". Let´s be honest: Every person has a certain (healthy) limit. Does it mean a Master can do EVERYTHING he wants? No, especially when you train a slave and guide him into submission. I like the analogy of building a house.