How important are gears and toys in BDSM?

Let's be honest. BDSM gears and toys are expensive and cannot be affored by everybody. Furthermore they need a lot of space in your house and your closet. And if you have many vanilla visitors you are currently worrying how to put away all the stuff so that nobody sees it. When you browse social media you often see the perfect dungeon and Master and slave in very hot gear and you might ask youself if you need more of that stuff and how you can afford it.

Renting out my slaveobject to a Master colleague

You probably read my article about "borrowing my slave to another Master" (link) and "Why I would not rent out my slave, although I find the idea hot!" (link). I recommend to read them first before continuing reading this article. I had the chance to borrow out my slaveobject again to a well trusted and well known Master colleague. Of course, I seized that opportunity! First of all because I have been training and molding my slave for many years and therefore I am proud of my work and like to share it with Masters who see the value and work. Secondly, I believe it is good for the evolution and training of the slave to be sometimes ordered to serve another Master. 

Kissing a Master

A slave recently asked me on twitter if I was allowed to kiss my Master and I want to put some thoughts in that. As you know my Master is not only my Master but also my partner, husband and the love of my life. So of course we share many intimate moments and part of these intimate moments is of course kissing. Depending on the situation etc. I sometimes kiss his feet goodbye in the morning but we also kiss goodbye with our mouths. It is really not that strict. Kissing is a valid and important part of our relationship and as I may say - Master is a great kisser.

Slave contract

I read here and there about slave contracts and I realised I never wrote about that topic. Therefore I decided to dedicate this article about slave contracts. There are some websites were you can find templates with these contracts. So what are the pros and cons about slave contracts?

Having your holes trained

As you already know I am not and I have never been a fan of anal play and I never enjoyed being plugged, fucked etc. But as you also know it is very important for my Master that he also trains me in this part and he made it very clear from the beginning that he would be slowly but firmly training my ass.

Milking and "slave orgasm"

As you all know since this year I keep my slave "absoluetly" chaste. Therefore he does not receive an orgasm. I see and feel that his sexual energy is usefully rerouted and focused on his slave being and his service towards me. His sexual pleasure is to serve his superior. It is important for me to keep my beloved slave healthy therefore I stimulate his prostate here and there. I "milk" my slave on a regularly base but not to often. The goal is that my slave's prostate gets stimulated and emptied without having any kind of "joy".  There are two ways to achieve that.

Appearing as vanilla but still having my Master in charge

There are moments where we have to appear as vanillas and can't live our BDSM lifestyle the way we normally do. This might be because of work, sickness etc. But mostly it is because we are with family or friends or we are travelling and at an environment where it is not so easy to live as Master and slave.