BDSM Lifestyle and daily life

Life is dynamic therefore it is important to adjust rules and structure to situation where it is needed! Of course there are rules and structures which are set in stone and which will probably not change but as a responsible Master you have to stay open minded and read the signals.

The ideal flat for a D/s relationship

Master and I have already been living together for 10 years. That is quite some time to see how D/s fits into everyday life. Furthermore we have met some other people who are kind of living the D/s life and seen their flats and houses. So I thought on sharing some thoughts about how the ideal flat/house for the BDSM-lifestyle or a D/s relationship looks like and what to look for if your looking for a place where you want to live with your Master or slave.

Serving two Leathermasters

Recently I was part of an evening that came right out of a porn movie. Master invited another Leatermaster and I was allowed to serve them both.

Master had planned this evening and He usually only gives me short notice that another Master or slave is coming. So I knew someone was coming but I did not knew if I would serve two Doms or if Master would have two submissives serving Him. When the evening came Master had me put on my gimp mask and turned me into a Human table where the Doms could put down their drinks.

"Entertaiment" vs. punishment

One of the most important topics in every relationship is open communication. Also in a D/s relationship it is important to communicate. Sometimes it is crutial that the slaves understands why something is happening. A good example of this is the topic "Entertaiment" vs. punishment.

Sometimes I want to use my slave for my entertainment or for the entertainment of my Master colleages. So I normaly tie my slave in a way up where his entire slave body is accessable. Playing with the slave nipples, squeezing the slave balls, hitting the slave with the riding crop. Showing him his position as a slave and object by using him as a "toy" for real men. Letting him suffer for my amusement. 

When Master uses other slaves

Master recently has reflected on open relationships and BDSM and that He controls my sexuality and whom I meet and that He is free on wheter meeting other subs or not. 

I thought I might reflect a little bit on how it is for me that Master uses other subs. First of all I know it is a difficult topic in many BDSM and vanilla relationships. Meeting other people for sex or BDSM can be difficult if there is a lack of communication that can make things complicated. But I also have seen it working great for many people, so every couple has to find it's own way. 

Open relationship & the BDSM lifestyle

If you would ask me if we had a open or closed relationship I would answer none of these two types. We are having a BDSM relationship. So after receiving this question I decided to write about my view and definition.

How the slave lost it's name

I honestly can't remember when Master called me the last time by my first name. It must have been months or even years ago? Pretty soon in our relationship, as in many D/s-relationship we did not refer to each other by our names but our "titles" - like Master, slave, Sir etc. 

This has intensived over the last year at the same time our relationship has intensived and turned even more into a D/s direction. So what does my Master call me now?