Healthy BDSM-relationship

In a previous blogpost my slave mentioned that he finds joy in serving Superiors. Therefore, I wanted to raise awareness about the topic of “healthy” serving and a healthy D/s relationship. I mentioned in many of my blogpost that BDSM – especially the BDSM-lifestyle - is a symbiosis and therefore it has to be kept on a healthy level. But what is healthy and what is toxic?

Serving Doms as lifegoal

I was always a service oriented sub. Whenever I was in contact with a Dom I never wanted to get fucked or suck dick, I always wanted to serve and make the life of the Dom better. Only few understood that and only few were able to use and enjoy the services I craved to provide. My Master is one of them. He enjoys that I take care of all his needs and makes sure I take away as many chores from him as possible. This was always in me and I am the happiest slave on Earth that I found a Master who enjoys that also the same way as I do. I did not think that that was possible but it got more intense, especially within the last year.

Guiding a natural slave

When you find a natural slave you will start to mold him and work on him. Guiding him into his being as a slave. Owning a natural slave is a huge responsibility. Of course one of the benefits of owning and molding a slave is that you use your slave for your desires. But keep in mind that you have a kind of a "contract" with your slave - a healthy BDSM-relationship is a symbiosis. He has also desires - "slave" desires which (hopefully) fit to your "Master" desires. The desire to be useful to his Master. The desire to serve and submit. The desire that he can trust his Master 1000%. The desire of being guided into his submissivness - into his real being. I guide and mold my slave since he decided to be my owned slave. I guided him deeper into his natural being as a slave - which I think he was born for! But what means to guide a slave? I decided to dedicate this blogpost to this topic.

Slave luxuries

As I am now permanently chaste I can't work for orgasms anymore. So Master adapted the system of my bonus points where I can still collect bonus points. But instead of getting an orgasm for them I can now trade them for slave luxuries. Master has decided that some things in my life are non essential slave luxuries for which I have to work. Things that are totally normal for my Master or any other free man but not for me.

Evolution of the "slave orgasm"

As most of you know I have strict rules and views about the orgasm or stimulation of my slave. Since the beginning of my Master-being it was for me cristal clear that orgasms are for Superiors. When a slave serves me he will eventually receive stimulation but orgasms are only for special occassions. For the most slaves chastity deepens their submission. I observed that the focus of a chaste slave shifts fully to the Master. It looks like it is given from nature that chastity lets a slave go deeper into his slave-being. I also observed that chastity made my slave more happy about his being as a slave. Today my slave finds his fullfilment and his "sexuality" in serving me and getting used.

How I accepted that I don't deserve orgasms

Some changes are happening fast. Only weeks ago I was writing about how I lost the right to earn orgasms. Since then I have taken an even deeper step into the submissive mind concerning orgasms. I have fully accepted that orgasms are only for free men and especially for Master.s I as a slave have a different kind of sexuality. Orgasms are not for me. They should be nothing I need and nothing I crave. This is quite a change I had over the last years. Just recently it was a motivation for me to be a good slave to earn orgasms.

My slave serving other Masters

I expect from my slave that he adresses other Masters - as well as Mistresses - properly and shows them the respect they deserve as Superiors. Whether in real life or online. It is his duty to adapt to Masters (or Mistresses) he interacts with. As example if a Master likes to be called "Sir" he has to do so and remember that. So in a certain kind of way I demand from my slave to "serve" all Superior as they deserve and I know my slave well enough that he would also do it without my prompting. It is in his natural being.