The "joy" of a ruined orgasm

I have to stay chaste all the time. I can "earn" my orgasms, but only my Master can give them to me and only he decides when I receive them even after I have earned one orgasm. In the last years my Master made it harder for me to earn an orgasm and so I have to stay chaste longer and longer. And more often I am receiving a ruined orgasm instead of a full orgasm. 

Serving a Master online

I receive here and there requests from slaves if they can serve me online or if I do online domination. I personaly prefer to dominate slaves in real life. The real interaction - where you build up a Master-slaves bond - gives me the joy which fulfills my inner need to dominate and use slaves. Nevertheless I am a natural Master and therefore I am also dominant online and I expect respect from slaves when they are writing with me in the online world but I don't do "online domination" in form of "online sessions". Yes I give here and there orders to slaves but not in a "online session" way.

Merry Christmas & Happy New Year

We wish you all a Merry Christmas and a happy New Year! Thanks for following us and your interest in your lifestyle.

See you in 2021!

The use of social media as slave

Like everybody I use social media. And I really love it, because it helps me to stay informed, be in contact with people, meet new people and even make some friends. Especially twitter is great in this, as long as it allows kink content.

But of course like everybody I also see the bad sides of social media. So I decided to reflect a little bit about how I as slave use it and where I see the benefits and problems.

What choices I give my slave

Many people thinksthat when you are a Master you decide everything. Yes of course you can decide everything if you want to but you also decide when you give your slave a choice. There are key events on your way into the BDSM-lifestyle/relationship where it is extremly important to give your slave the choice.

 

So before you find a slave who comes over to serve you the first time, the slave already made his first choice: He chooses to serve you. You didn't force him to. This is a important step into a healthy BDSM-relationship. It was his choice to start the path into submission with you, he accepted you as a dominant and gave you the first trust which you can deepen.

Our transition from "part time" to "full time" BDSM-relationship.

A nice Mistress asked me how it has been at the beginning of our relationship when we changed from part time to full time BDSM-relationship.

I can reflect a little bit from my slave perspective about that. First of all I think it might be different from other BDSM couples, because we started as Master and slave and only later become a couple. We both always wanted to live the BDSM lifestyle. Master was seeking for a slave and I was seeking for an owner. In the beginning I only served part time. That means I only served on the weekends, during holidays etc.

BDSM & Punishment

I recently read a comment here on our blog with some questions about punishment which had a very good point. I made some thoughs and decided to write the next article about punishment in BDSM. Punishment is for me an essential part of the BDSM lifestyle. But we really have to distinguish some point here. Keep in mind: My slave wants to serve properly and would never intend to do a mistake on purpose.