Our transition from "part time" to "full time" BDSM-relationship.

A nice Mistress asked me how it has been at the beginning of our relationship when we changed from part time to full time BDSM-relationship.

I can reflect a little bit from my slave perspective about that. First of all I think it might be different from other BDSM couples, because we started as Master and slave and only later become a couple. We both always wanted to live the BDSM lifestyle. Master was seeking for a slave and I was seeking for an owner. In the beginning I only served part time. That means I only served on the weekends, during holidays etc.

BDSM & Punishment

I recently read a comment here on our blog with some questions about punishment which had a very good point. I made some thoughs and decided to write the next article about punishment in BDSM. Punishment is for me an essential part of the BDSM lifestyle. But we really have to distinguish some point here. Keep in mind: My slave wants to serve properly and would never intend to do a mistake on purpose.

A normal Tuesday as Master and slave

A very friendly Master recently asked me on witter what a normal Tuesday looks like in a BDSM-relationship. Just an average day, without a guest slave, without the High protocol etc. I am very happy to answer the question. If you are interested in other topics you can also write me and I will try to cover them.

First of all we are probably just a normal couple that spends a normal Tuesday. We get up, we go to work, we come home, we spend the evening together, we love each other. A normal day for so many couples. But of course some things are different in a BDSM relationship and I try to describe a normal day.

Slaves and limits

Limits are part of BDSM and it should be common sense that everything what would harm a slave permanently - physically as well as mentally - are clear limits! Therefore consciously overstepping a slave limits can cause "mental damage" espacially in the ability of trusting others! Furthermore you risk that the slave will not further explore his inner need to submit and in the worst case the community loses perhaps a good slave! After mentioning this most important lines I will dig deeper in the topic of "limits".

Where I sleep as a slave

A short time ago I made a poll on twitter where Master's who live with their slaves let their slaves sleep. The outcome and the discussions where quite interesting! Most of the Masters let sleep their slave in their bed, followed by cage and floor and only a few Masters allowed their slaves to sleep in a bed for their own. So I decided to write a little bit about where my Master lets me sleep. 

I am not allowed to use any furniture in our flat without my Master's permission, this applies also for the bed of course. But I am very lucky that my Master loves to have me in his bed with him. Of course it is not a rule that I am allowed to sleep in bed with him every day. 

Feelings, empathy and BDSM

Feelings are for me an essential and important part in BDSM and for the BDSM-lifestyle! I love to be responsable for a slave, using his slavebody and train him to get better in serving. It is my passion to dominate slaves - which I believe I was born with. Receiving the fullest trust and devotion from an inferior is the most precious good you can receive in my point of view! It gives me joy to train and see progress in forming a slave. Therefore (positive) "feelings" are a an essential part for a healty BDSM-relationship.

Being used as a cleaning object

I exist to serve my Master. My Master knows that and he uses me in many ways. This time I want to tell you about one special way my Master uses me which brings my submissiveness out in fullest. My Master uses me as an object if it pleases him and I also have to take care of the household. On Saturdays he combines those two ways of using me. Of course not every Saturday is the same but quite often Master and I get up on a Saturday morning. First thing I serve him his Master coffee, lick his feet while he enjoys the coffee and reads the news. After that I am allowed to have my breakfast in the cage. After that Master usually turns me into his cleaning object to take care of the flat on Saturday morning.