Thursday, April 15, 2021

BDSM Lifestyle and "Mood"

On the last "#FindOutFridayBDSM" event on my twitter I got the question what I do when I am not "in the mood". I find this question worthy to dedicate a whole blogentry. So lets dig deeper into the topic.
 
First of all we have to destinguish between "mood" and "lifestyle". Me and my slave choose to live the BDSM lifestyle because it fullfils us - it makes us happy, it satisfies our inner needs. It is our desire to live that way. If you have the desire of owning a pet you choose to live the "dog-owner" lifestyle - going out with the dog, train him, enjoy time with the dog and so on. You did not decide because you were in the "mood" for it, you choose it because it was your inner need which you wanted to satisfied.

Thursday, April 8, 2021

Losing the right to earn orgasms

You already know that my Master has been for years and of course still is in control of my sexuality. You might be surprised to hear that even after a long time of enslavement there can be some changes. Until know I could "earn" orgasms by working for them. That meant that I had to do all the tasks, all the traininges etc. and earn bonus points. Over the years Master made it harder for me to reach the points and made the orgasms "more expensive". This way he could control the frequency of my orgasms and make them more and more rare. Normally I would get an orgasm, or a ruined orgasm, some time shortly after I had reached the amount of needed points as a reward. I noticed that recently I actually had for quite some time already reached the needed points but received no orgasms.

Thursday, April 1, 2021

A BDSM-relationship is a dynamic construct

If you are living the BDSM lifestyle or you want to have a BDSM-relationship you have to keep in mind that it is a dynamic relationship. If you considering to build up a BDSM-relationship - any kind of BDSM-relationship - it is a dynamic construct. Hopyfully the Master and his slave will evolve (together!), you will deepen your bonds and I am sure the slave will deepen his submissivness - if it is in his true nature.